How to Attract the Right Guy

How to Attract the Right GuyHow to Attract the Right Guy
Being happy makes you a love magnet


Firstly, who is the right man for you? We all have well-wishers and friends who would comment, -ldquo;You can do better!-rdquo;, -ldquo;Why don-rsquo;t you meet this guy or that?-rdquo;, -ldquo;He-rsquo;s not right for you-rdquo;, -ldquo;I know someone that is just right for you-rdquo;. So, what determines this -ldquo;right-rdquo; for you?

To me, a man who accepts you for what you are, as you are and loves you unconditionally is the right man. One who makes you laugh and whose company you really enjoy is right. One who enhances your self-esteem instead of pushing you down is right for you. Have you considered how you want to feel in the "right relationship'? I suggest you take a few minutes and jot it down now. â¨â¨

The most important thing a woman can do, is to work on herself and get her physical, emotional and financial life into great shape. In other words, become the quality woman who is sought out by the kind of man we wish to be with in the first place. Replace your self-deprecating thoughts with the belief that -ldquo;I am good enough-rdquo; and align your actions so that you feel authentic when you say that to yourself.â¨

When our inner world is full of happiness and joy and we are independent, secure and stable it shines through and creates magnetism around us that everyone (not just men we may be interested in) can feel. When we lose the need (and nothing kills attraction faster than neediness) to be with someone we are more likely to find someone who wants to be with us. â¨â¨

Basically, we become the kind of woman with high self-esteem and high character who DOES NOT need a man to fill any hole inside us. Quality men look for quality women and the best way to attract the kind of man you want is to become the kind of woman he-rsquo;d like to be with. A popular misconception about men is that they are only concerned about a woman-rsquo;s appearance and are only interested in sex. While this may hold true for the general populace, the ones we regard as -ldquo;quality-rdquo; men would much rather spend time with, be with and date an average-looking woman with a great character and a more fulfilling personality than a hot, dysfunctional drama queen!â¨â¨

I attracted the love of my life when I truly finally fell in love madly with myself. I discovered my true calling, gems and purpose and pursued them with blinkers on. I stopped making decisions around the possibilities of meeting a nice guy. I put my career and purpose above all that. â¨â¨I know you have heard this before and that you are wishing I have some fresh news for you, I really get it. I have been there, the incessant checking of my phone to see if a guy I had hopes of would text me or want to see me again. â¨â¨I-rsquo;d chase them covertly, looking for excuses to contact them and trying to act all nonchalant about it; I-rsquo;d change my profile pictures or go to events just to attract attention. And I did this nonsense with guys that I wasn-rsquo;t even sure I really liked, just to get their attention and see that they liked me.â¨â¨

It saddens me the number of women out there who spend their life just looking for a man, waiting to be loved, waiting for somebody to come into their lives and sweep them off their feet. And then they do everything in their power to make it happen. They put a lot of effort into everything to attract that man to take away the loneliness. And when they meet some nice men, because they are so desperate for this one to be the one, they put all the previous drama into this one guy, this one sweet person who they just met just to get him to do what they want him to do. They become so transparently needy and yet when friends point it out, they deny it because they think they have covered it up well under the layers of make up. â¨â¨Have you been there? You want him to call you, you want him to act in such a way, you want to know that he cares, you want to know that he is as attracted to you as you are to him. But you know in most cases you are not even sure if you like him, you just wanted him to like you.

I found the LOVE OF MY LIFE at almost 42, after years of pain, abuse, betrayal and horrible encounters and dysfunctional relationships. This time though, it is not some -ldquo;compromise-rdquo; relationship, but rather is the first time I have felt so loved, desired, wanted, cared for, protected and accepted for all I am. I can be myself and the passion is beyond imagination.â¨I didn-rsquo;t go looking for him, I was at a book store doing an event for my previous book, Don-rsquo;t Think of a Blue Ball, when he swaggered in and asked me a question that showed me the synchronicity that only being plugged in can bring into your experience. He was attracted to the topic because he too is so into personal development.â¨Where I am getting at is that you cannot build your life around looking for a man or around being attractive or finding that man. The only way to attract a good solid relationship that is not co-dependent and not needy, is when you are actually falling in love with yourself again, and you are actually living a life that is committed to your own goals, dreams and desires.

I implore you to live a life that is about you and not about a man. Even when you find a man you love, yes love him, love him with all your heart but don-rsquo;t stop living your life. Don-rsquo;t let your life revolve around whether he called or he did not. Whether he cares about you, whether he is attracted to you or not.â¨â¨Think of yourself as the earth rotating around her own axis. Give him what you want to give him but simultaneously you pursue your life 'coz your life is more than just about a man. Your life is about you, your likes and dislikes, the things that you enjoy, people who are dependent on you being you, who love you, who need your time. Your work, your colleagues, your taste, what you enjoy. â¨â¨Live for yourself, there will be no room for loneliness. Focus on you. Be an empowered woman and then watch how men will then fall at your feet. â¨â¨Being happy makes you a love magnet - you will attract LOVE into your life!

Image courtesy:-copy;Thinkstock photos/ Getty images

Related Articles -

Fun Ways to Keep the Romance Alive Without Sex

8 Reasons Why You Should Have Sex Everyday

Are You Sexually Mismatched?

Follow us on Twitter for all updates, like us on Facebook for related stuff

Matches

MORE TOP STORIES TODAY

Rajasthan edge low-scoring thriller

Rajasthan edge low-scoring thriller

The bowlers restricted Hyderabad to 133 for 6 before Rahane and Binny took Rajasthan over the line. More »

Maxwell blitz takes Punjab home

Maxwell blitz takes Punjab home

The Kings XI batsman blasted a 43-ball 95 to help his team pull off a massive chase against Chennai Super Kings. More »

Bangalore vs Mumbai: A battle of the big-hitters

Bangalore vs Mumbai: A battle of the big-hitters

As two of the most glamorous sides in the Indian T20 league, the focus of the match between Mumbai and Bangalore will invariably be on the middle-order… More »

BCCI lacks leaders to take on Srinivasan, says Manohar

BCCI lacks leaders to take on Srinivasan, says Manohar

Two former BCCI presidents, Shashank Manohar and Jagmohan Dalmiya, have reacted strongly to the news of the BCCI calling an emergent meeting on Sunday… More »

Pietersen ridicules idea of day-night Tests

Pietersen ridicules idea of day-night Tests

Kevin Pietersen has ridiculed the idea of day-night Test cricket, saying the game would be so different to proper Test cricket that we will need a whole… More »

Beleaguered Yuvraj tees off to Sharjah's delight

Beleaguered Yuvraj tees off to Sharjah's delight

Yuvraj Singh was hardly convincing to begin with against Delhi, but a big dose of crowd support and a helping of poor bowling meant he had the opportunity… More »

Stressed Trott stands down again

Stressed Trott stands down again

The England and Wales Cricket Board (ECB) on Friday confirmed that batsman Jonathan Trott is to take another break from all cricket with immediate eff… More »

PCB starts another coach hunt

PCB starts another coach hunt

The PCB has decided to not extend the contracts of head coach Moin Khan, fielding coach Shoaib Mohammad and batting consultant Zaheer Abbas, and has invited… More »

Pakistan cricketers face probe

Pakistan cricketers face probe

Pakistani cricket authorities have launched an investigation after a number of current international stars played in exhibition matches in the United States… More »

Fiery star Stokes bids to curb his temper

Fiery star Stokes bids to curb his temper

England all-rounder Ben Stokes admits he must keep his anger under control if he is to end his international exile. More »

Bangalore's arsenal blazes to victory

Bangalore's arsenal blazes to victory

Yuvraj Singh was back to his best in his first match for Royal Challengers Bangalore. More »

BCCI to meet before next court hearing

BCCI to meet before next court hearing

The BCCI will hold an emergent working committee meeting on April 20 to discuss the future course of action with regard to the Supreme Court hearing concerning… More »

Gavaskar wants a clean IPL

Gavaskar wants a clean IPL

"Integrity is non-negotiable..." says the BCCI's interim chief ahead of Season 7 of the tainted league. More »

Time for Chennai to enter familiar cocoon

Time for Chennai to enter familiar cocoon

Chennai have an emphatic 8-3 lead in the head-to-head with Punjab, with one game tied More »

Kallis, Narine star in KKR win

Kallis, Narine star in KKR win

An all-round display saw Knight Riders thump Mumbai Indians by 41 runs in the IPL-7 opener. More »

'Yak' Kallis still on top of his game

'Yak' Kallis still on top of his game

The 38-year-old South African veteran turned it on for Kolkata Knight RIders in the opening match of IPL-7. More »

Rajasthan and Hyderabad face-off

Rajasthan and Hyderabad face-off

A quality that defines Rajasthan and Hyderabad is consistency. Rajasthan was one among two teams to enjoy complete dominance at home last season. Hyderabad… More »

Srinivasan named in fixing report: SC

Srinivasan named in fixing report: SC

The court emphasised that the tainted administrator can no longer work for the BCCI. More »

Yuvraj happy to play for RCB: Kohli

Yuvraj happy to play for RCB: Kohli

New-look RCB will play their first game of IPL-7 on Thursday. More »

IPL: News Line

IPL: News Line

A round-up of all the news from this season of the IPL. More »

Shane Watson issues moral warning

Shane Watson issues moral warning

'Everyone knows what is right and what is wrong and if you do the wrong thing it will be found out' More »

Why I'm not looking forward to the IPL

Why I'm not looking forward to the IPL

Welcome to another season of a league that many watch but few trust. More »

Johnson may quit T20s for Tests

Johnson may quit T20s for Tests

Australia's Mitchell Johnson may quit limited-overs cricket to prolong his test career with an eye on the 2015 Ashes series in England, the fast bowler… More »

Nepal players call off boycott

Nepal players call off boycott

Thaw in relations after formation of an advisory committee that would work in tandem with the Cricket Association of Nepal. More »